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When Jess mentioned her desire to focus on mothering this month, immediately my heart was drawn to the topic of affirmations. Positive self-talk has become a life-line for me. I remember as a new mom, with my 6 month old baby, Truman, sitting at the kitchen table eating oatmeal with ice cream piled on top for the 2nd week in a row. My heart was heavy with self doubt. I was feeling lost and unsure of myself in general. I literally laughed out loud when I started adding rainbow sprinkles on top of my breakfast and decided it was time to put the ice cream away and find more productive ways to soothe my weary exhausted soul. I called a very trusted friend and right away she sent me two books* that altered my perspective and empowered me with tools to talk kindly to myself and practice positive affirmations.

Motivational author, Louise Hay said “An affirmation is really anything you say or think. A lot of what we normally say and think is quite negative and doesn’t create good experiences for us. We have to retrain our thinking and speaking into positive patterns if we want to change our lives.”

I’ve learned having a tool kit of positive affirmations, practiced regularly, lightens our load, brings peace, presence and joy into our daily efforts as “mother.” Let’s choose thoughts that nourish us and help us show up in our life as our best selves, and show up for our kids as whole hearted individuals.

So in an effort to be you, and love you and love your life, let’s start here:

The first affirmation we can add to our toolkit is, I accept myself.
I accept myself.
I accept myself.
Say it out loud. I accept myself. How does it make you feel? Can you say it easily? Say it 100 more times. I said it over and over–in the car, at the grocery store, while I was talking to my 6 month old baby; in the shower, on our walks, while I rocked him at 3 am. I accept myself–right now, who I am in this moment, this messy beautiful moment. I am enough. I accept myself. Those words are powerful.

The next affirmation to keep on hand is, everything is working out for my highest good.
Write it down, sing it loud, say it 100 times.
Everything is working out for my highest good.
Everything is working out for my highest good.
This was a major shift for me. It was putting my trust in life. Submitting and accepting what is, as though its best for me. And guess what? Life started teaching me, because I was open. Because I was living every bit of my life like I chose it. And my experiences, no matter how challenging, were rewarding. Deepak Chopra teaches us, “You do not need to believe these statements to speak them or think them. If you don’t yet believe that you are peaceful, that’s OK. ‘Fake it ‘til you make it.’ That is what reprogramming is all about. Affirm it until you believe it. When you believe it, the world and universe will follow your lead.” It’s all working out as it should.

The last affirmation I let sink into my heart and mind during my first early days of motherhood and has stuck with me since is, all is well.
Just thinking it makes me want to take a deep breath.
All is well.
All is well.
This is written on a big poster in our home. All is well. This thought brings peace. It helps us give others (and ourselves) space to be imperfect, and reminds us that no matter our circumstances, we can find what we need inside of us to create balance and grounding.

Saying positive affirmations has become a family practice. Not just for me, but for my kids, also. In the morning somewhere between prayers and dad heading off to work, we are repeating some of our favorites. Sometimes my kids take turns leading the repetition with, “I am superman.”
Last night my husband left for a meeting, and Truman, my 5 year old, called after him from the bath-tub saying, “You’re good, dad. You do good work. All is well.” I love hearing my kids practice this positive talk. I want them to grow up knowing they are loveable, valuable creatures; and know that everyone around them is, too!

Finding time to put positive thoughts in our mind that we are enough, in a world that is trying to convince us we aren’t, is a courageous work. We have power over our thoughts. Let’s choose the kind that make us happy.

(Dig a little deeper with our affirmations worksheet!)

*The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown + How to Heal Your Life by Louise Hays